Make Yourself at Home

“If anyone loves me, he will keep my word, and my Father will love him, 

and we will come to him and make our home with him.” John 14:23

In the past 4 years, we’ve called technicians to our home to make repairs: once, in the dead of summer when our A/C gave up, and then, in the dead of winter, when our furnace quit. In both situations, whether sweating or shivering, I was pretty desperate for the problem to be solved asap so I could get back to normal life. 

When he came, I didn’t say to the repairman, “Make yourself at home - here are the keys. Wander around, check out each room, and stay a while. The pantry is yours, the fridge is yours. If you feel like redecorating, go for it.” No. I didn’t invite him to settle in; I just needed him to work on one thing, and I pointed immediately to it. I was not trying to make him comfortable. Actually, I was expecting him to make ME more comfortable.

And I wonder how closely that parallels our relationship with God? We invite Him to fix something that’s broken so we can be comfortable again and get back to our normal life, but we’re not asking him to come make himself at home.

That God is willing to make himself at home with us should be shocking. 

God, at home with me?! 

God himself smiling and sighing, “Ah, now this feels like home”?!

Jesus’ statement in John 14:23 follows a promise he had made just a few verses earlier: “In my Father’s house are many rooms. If it were not so, would I have told you that I go to prepare a place for you?”  John 14:2

The Greek word in verse 2 for rooms is the same word used in verse 23 for home (Vine’s Expository Dictionary of New Testament Words). It means abode or dwelling-place.

While we wait for Jesus to prepare a home for us, we can live in such a way that God makes his home in us, here and now. Jesus explains how: it’s obedience to His word that signals genuine love, flinging the door open, handing God the keys, and inviting him to settle in. 

Obedience to His word doesn’t bring God the Holy Spirit into my life, but it’s the invitation for him to be more than a repairman. Obedience lovingly says, “Come check out each room of my heart, stay awhile, renovate and redecorate, and do whatever it takes to make yourself at home.”

Water & Power

A friend recently texted that their town was replacing their neighborhood pipes, so they’d be without water for a short time. Ugh! If you’ve gone without water or electricity for a day or longer, you know that not having something so essential, highlights how essential it really is! Suddenly, its absence makes the heart grow fonder, and we tell ourselves we’ll never take it for granted again.

For me, familiar scripture can be like running water or electricity in our home - it’s there, and it’s nice to have, but sometimes I take it for granted and forget why it’s so crucial.  But what if the Living Water didn’t flow in my life and my power source was cut off? To imagine life without the truth of a familiar passage, I re-write the verses stating the opposite reality. For example, here’s what life would be like without the Shepherd of Psalm 23:

The Lord is not my Shepherd; I lack everything.

No one settles me down in green pastures;

I just keep pushing on through barren deserts.

No one leads me beside still waters;

All I can find are turbulent ones.

No one restores my fatally sick soul.

No one has any reason to point out the right path to me;

I always pick the wrong one.

When I’m trapped in the valley of the shadow of death, 

I fear all the evil, because I’m all alone.

There are no guides or guardrails to comfort me.

I’m starving, but there’s no food around - 

only my enemies are before me, and they consume me.

I’m dry and empty.

Truly, wickedness and steady hatred have chased me down all the days of my life,

and I’m far from the Lord, homeless forever.

If you need fresh appreciation for familiar verses like these, try taking their truths and writing what your reality would be if the opposite were true, because the water and light of the Word become even more precious in their absence.

A Mind that Stays

“You keep him in perfect peace whose mind is stayed on you, because he trusts in you.” Isaiah 26:3 

Does your mind “stay”?

Some friends brought their dog to our place one day, and since our yard at the time was safely fenced in, they let the dog off its leash. Immediately it dashed to the furthest corner of the grass, sniffed the perimeter for about 1.5 seconds, and wormed its way right off of our property through a small gap in the posts. So much for a peaceful afternoon.

Everyone jumped up, frantic. We shouted the dog’s name, chased it all over the neighborhood, and our friends yelled at it to “stay!” as they ran out of breath. Not a chance. He wouldn't stay.

And my mind won’t either. All of the what-ifs from the other side of the fence spark my imagination and beg for exploration, and my mind runs wildly. For me, this is especially true at night, when darkness closes in around me. How can we experience this truth from Isaiah 26:3 when we have minds that wander more than they stay?

First, I look at each word in this verse. The Brown-Driver-Briggs Lexicon (unless otherwise noted) gives these insights for better understanding:

Keep: “guard, watch over” 

Perfect peace: “shalom shalom” (repetition is the Hebrew way to emphasize a concept)

Mind: “imagination, frame of mind” 

Stay: literally, “to place or lay something upon any thing so that it may rest upon and be supported by it” -Gesenius’ Hebrew-Chaldee Lexicon

Trust: “have confidence in” 

If I were to use these definitions in application to my own struggle, the verse would sound like this: “You stand guard with your extra-wide shield of peace over me when my imagination lays its head down on you, because I’m confident in you.” 

When my mind tugs relentlessly at its leash in the middle of the night, I’m securing the fence posts around my imagination with a simple practice: Picture every post painted with a letter of the alphabet,  A, B, C, etc.  Each letter represents a truth, whether it’s a verse that begins with that letter, or an attribute of God himself, or something for which I’m thankful. 

Hammer the A post deeper into the grass: God is All-seeing

Pound the B post so it’s not going anywhere: Every spiritual Blessing is mine in Christ

Stake down the C post with: “Cast your cares on Him, because He cares for you.” (bonus for 3 c’s!)

I keep going around the border of my mind, letter by letter, so that it’s only bound by reality and resting on God. And those parameters leave me free to be shielded by peace that comes from staying.

Questions I ask myself: 

Is my imagination supported by God or by something else? 

Do my thoughts filter through a framework of confidence in God?

Am I so eager for the reward of peace that I’m willing to train my mind to “stay”?

P.S. Yes, the dog was eventually found, and I’m sure our friends keep a watchful eye on the condition of their fence;)

Retreat Recap

I spent the weekend of September 12-14 with about 250 women at beautiful Lake Ann Camp in Michigan. Together we addressed the apparent dissonance between the God-centered requests and the need-centered requests that Jesus teaches in The Lord’s Prayer. Is it possible to be God-centered when we have so many needs?

When I began studying The Lord’s Prayer, I wondered whether hallowing God’s name could ever be a desire in the middle of a practical need like daily bread. I questioned whether a longing for God’s kingdom would be possible under the burden of broken relationships in this immediate world. I asked whether doing God’s will on earth - a hostile place full of temptation and very unlike heaven - could ever truly be possible.

But if we allow God’s holiness to inform us about bread, His kingdom to teach us about relationships, and His will to be our path of deliverance, something in us changes. What we discovered over the weekend is that as Jesus teaches us how to pray about our needs, he teaches us how to live in our neediness.

I’ve attached #3 of the four sessions, which brings together the second set of requests: “Your kingdom come…forgive us our debts as we also have forgiven our debtors.”

Motherhood

Yesterday was my last Mother’s Day with both boys in high school, because our oldest graduates in just a couple weeks. Being a boy mom (or a mom of teenagers), you never know if they’ll take a moment like this seriously or if they’ll try to make you laugh, and yesterday they chose the latter.

As we sat together wrapping up the day, Nate said to them, “Let’s each list 3 words that describe Mom”. Their mental wheels started to spin, and they exchanged grins. The first few adjectives they immediately came up with were:

Female

Maternal

Motherly

Minority

Motherhood is such an adventure! 

I was asked to share my heart on motherhood for a few minutes yesterday in church, so I’ve attached the link here if you’d like to listen in. The morning message begins at 39:35, starting with our pastor’s introduction, followed by our women’s ministry director’s portion, and then my portion.

Our women’s ministry director speaks openly about the lies we tend to believe as moms, and it’s a heart-check session!

Here’s a brief summary of my outline: Motherhood is about being, not doing

Be invisible with your Father 

(Matthew 6:1-18)

Be in step with the Spirit 

(Galatians 5:25)

Be increasingly less so Jesus is more 

(John 3:27-30)

Happy Mother’s Day, and I hope this encourages your heart!